“We know we’re getting old when the only thing we want for our birthday is not to be reminded of it. “
Our friend Larry Ramos celebrated his birthday recently. Responding to the birthday greetings we sent him, he wrote:
Thanks for the greetings. Birthday lang, hindi happy. Got lot of things to think of. Getting old, missing you guys, missing my father, “death threat” (matanda na kasi eh). Everyone and everything, pumapasok sa isip ko. Somehow I feel so tired and yet I am afraid to rest forever. Ganito pala ang tumatanda, nagiging lalong feeling senti. Sabi nga ng daughter kong si Larizza, “Don’t think you are getting older, you are just getting wiser”. But the way I look at it, mas wise sila, kasi lagi nila ako naiisahan, kaya feeling ko tumatanda. Anyway, just sharing you how I feel nowadays, parang KSP (kulang sa pansin). Masakit isipin na several years from now “dual citizen” na tayo: Filipino citizen and senior citizen.
Some people may see it as a milestone, but for Larry getting old seems to be one dreadful thought. Are you having the same feeling lately? If so, try to seek solace in the following three-step advice on how to grow old gracefully, which we lifted from eHow.
Here it is:
I find that the most important thing about growing old gracefully is, “acceptance”. Yes, accepting the fact that we all grow old and that it is a part of life. If we accept that one fact we can grow old gracefully. Oh, it isn’t an easy pill to swallow. We would all love to keep our youthful appearances and still be able to physically do all of the things that we used to do. But, let’s face it the old body just isn’t up to some of those things. “Acceptance” is key to survival of our golden years!
Acceptance doesn’t mean defeat. No, you can accept growing old and you can still be as youthful in your heart and your life as you choose to be – that’s the positive thing about growing old. That young girl or young boy is still spiritually inside of you. You still want to look as good as you can; you still want to be successful in all that you do. You are at the age of, “wisdom”, where all things are possible! This is the time in your life where dreams still can come true; age can’t take your dreams away from you.
Usually the first thing that everyone thinks about when they talk about growing old are the gray hair, the wrinkles, the weight problems, and the aches and pains that come with growing old. These are things that we can’t change. Sure, we can die our hair, use as many wrinkle attacking products that we want, watch our weight, work out, and take pain relievers for those aches and pains…but in the end we, “Can’t turn back the hands of time.” I say we “accentuate the positive!” I say that we accept the physical signs of aging for what they are and move on! I say we listen to the young spirit within and continue to make our DREAMS come true! I say we LIVE! I say if we accept the aging process, continue to make our dreams come true, and live life to the fullest then we will be aging gracefully!